Gone are the days in school when dating just meant hanging out in someone's dorm or near her locker. " If you get this response, skip straight to Step 9. She may show the body language of a "Yes" but actually say that she already has plans for that day. All signs show she wants to say no to the date, not because she's busy but because she doesn't think she likes you, and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Super suave move of the century after getting an unenthusiastic response to your date: Pause, waiting patiently. If she is veering into " No," say these words as nicely as possible: "I'm sorry. I just thought we might have fun going out, but maybe you just think of me as a friend.Now there are actual activities and planning involved, and implementing them can be awkward. BEFORE YOU ASK HER ON A DATE 3) Get to know her a little. (B) With an unenthusiastic "maybe" or long hesitation. She is trying to say no but doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Relax, buddy, she probably just has plans for that day, like she says. I didn't mean to take you by surprise." Now hit pause again. (B) She shows relief by exhaling and smiling, then says something to the effect of, "You're right, you did take me by surprise, and I don't really think of you as anything but a friend. Notice some small, innocuous detail about her that you like -- "I like your hair like that." "You look really nice in that coat! BEFORE YOU COMMIT TO DATING 1) Accept that you will be the pursuer.If you are not used to this because you are shy, adjust yourself to the fact that you must change your ways or continue to play Quake II on Saturday nights.
4) Before you ask her out, consider what you are asking her out to do. 5) Be suave: Go even a little further in the planning department. From now on, you communicate with her only on the phone or in person. 12) Map out directions to her house and to the various destinations. Make reservations if that's an option, or at least call to make sure everything is definitely going to be open. 16) Pay the whole way, no flinching or sidelong glances at her. 17) Open the car door for her, make sure she's settled in, then close the door. If you fail to do this next step, even if you think you swept her off her feet on the date itself, all your good work will be for naught.
And dating a surfer probably isn’t the best idea, since surfers practically live at the beach.