My last dating situation was probably one of the worst.In the past I have dealt with a cheating ex who tried to justify his doggish behavior.Many want that relationship that reminds them of an episode from the television sitcoms such as “Friends” or “Seinfeld,” the truth of the matter is that you will most likely get the exact type of relationship you want.This however does not mean that it will be the best relationship you need in order to be happy. What is it, exactly, that you find so attractive about him or her?If you’re like a lot of people, you probably envisioned someone caring, warm, reliable, confident, and open—All personality characteristics that make for a secure partner.
Again, if you’re like a lot of people, you probably can think of at least one partner who was insecure; perhaps they came across as emotionally needy and clingy (i.e., anxiously attached) or perhaps they acted emotionally distant and non-communicative (i.e., avoidantly attached).
He snooped my Facebook page (yes, this grown man), interrogated me about childhood guy friends, and even questioned my ‘feelings’ when I didn’t respond back to his calls in what he considered a reasonable amount of time.
According to him, I didn’t show that I cared enough and every guy besides him was the person I really wanted to be with.
Researchers examined these very questions in a study of attachment and dating strategies.
First, they asked 146 undergraduate students to complete a questionnaire that measured their attachment avoidance and attachment anxiety. These are all common concerns voiced by insecure people who see compliments as a true measure of their self-worth.